EVEN AT 5FT 4IN MIA FARROW IS SOMEHOW TALLER than one expects, as she greets you at her sprawling 200-year-old farmhouse, overlooking its own lake, and set in 60 acres of glorious Connecticut countryside. The low-beamed ceilings, the book-lined walls, the patina of old wood, the English country garden that she and her children planted themselves, all point to someone for whom family and roots are central to who she is. The refectory table in the dining room is long enough to sear her large family, both the children she adopted and her own four offspring.

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